I want to become a morning person. Like a super, full-on 5 AM up-and-early morning person.
I don’t know what I’m waiting for—but I know this: if I continue to think about it without doing something about it, I’ll be sitting here in the same place thinking the same thought in another five years.
“The next time we begin to feel this immense and absolute anger towards the person who has harmed us—let’s make that shift, and forgive. Forgive the one who has wronged us not because that person deserves it; rather, forgive them as a sign of gratitude to Allah (swt). Forgive as a symbol of our thanking Him for blessing us to be of those who have never thought of hurting a person in the manner that we have had to endure. Forgive as a symbol of our thanking Him for making us the oppressed and not the oppressors. There is no sin in being the oppressed; rather, Allah tells us that He is with the one who has been wronged and is constantly answering their du`a’ (supplication). But what of the oppressor? They have the anger of Allah (swt) and the displeasure of Allah (swt). And realize that the one who has oppressed you has oppressed themselves more. For it is that person who will have to stand in front of Allah (swt) on the Day of Judgment and have their oppression accounted for, if they are not of those who have repented. So on that Day, they will be their own greatest victims.
Forgive as a statement that says, ‘Oh Allah I’m not forgiving them for their own sake, rather I am forgiving them as a sign of gratitude to You for steering me clear of those desires. I’m forgiving them out of my love for You. I’m forgiving them because I know You love it when a slave of Yours is merciful to others and I want to be of the ones that You love. My desires tell me to wish evil for them and to hold this grudge, but I put You over my own desire and I forgive them.’
Pray for those who hurt you. Pray for those who do not accept you. Love them for the sake of God. Pray that they realize their wrongs before they face their Lord. Pray that no one ever has to go through the same thing you did at the hands of this person. Love your oppressor for the sake of God, because love is the only emotion that is strong enough to penetrate a hardened heart, but know it will take time. Perhaps years, but you will be a better person because you chose to take the higher route: forgiveness.” —Taken from: reehab’s ramblings
They said, “Are you indeed Joseph?” He said “I am Joseph, and this is my brother. Allah has certainly favored us. Indeed, he who fears Allah and is patient, then indeed, Allah does not allow to be lost the reward of those who do good.”
—Surah Yusuf (12:90)
The Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him, had a dream where he saw a beautiful garden. In this garden was a man surrounded by many children. The Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him, explained that this man was Prophet Abraham (Ibrahim); the children were all the children who died before the age of puberty. He explained that they were all in Paradise (Heaven). Commenting on this, the Companions inquired, “Including the children of polytheists?” and the Prophet (peace be upon him) replied, “Yes, including the children of polytheists.” [Source: Bukhari]
This post has been circulating my Facebook newsfeed for the last few hours. I watched it. It has over 2 million views already.
And it was really cute. Totally made me “aww”—but it also made me think. So many women watched it, shared it, commented on posts related to it—all in agreement that what this man slurred in his speech was the cutest thing they’d ever heard. And do you know what that truly means, if you really think about it? That it’s true. Women need love, praise and admiration. And they don’t need to be loved silently. They need to be told. It’s so simple. This man barely took two minutes to say what he said. In these two minutes, he didn’t buy her a car, a mansion, pretty diamonds, or a fancy dress. He felt sincere gratitude to have her in his life—and then he told her.
Yasmin Mogahed has talked about this multiple times—the need for a woman to be shown love. Yet, a simple thing like this is deprived from most women and people really have absolutely no idea how much it can hurt. Remember, a big part of love is loving someone the way they want to be loved. And the second you think that you are giving “enough”—that’s when you need to give more. Because that love, my friend, is selfish.
When we fall or hurt ourselves, our body automatically lets us know we’re in pain. It does this so we can take action against it, and do something about what has happened to us. Relate the same to emotional, unseen pain. Take the pain as a warning signal, allow it to help you take action and make you more vigilant than ever. Pain is completely purposeless if it does not make us stronger, for that is exactly why it exists. Pain is an opportunity.
“Focus only on what you love. What you focus on will expand. If you focus on what bugs you, all you will see is reasons to be bugged. If you focus on what you love, you can’t help but be consumed by love. Focus to the point where you can no longer see anything but love, and you know without a doubt that you are the luckiest man on earth to be have this woman as your wife.”
— and vice versa.
On another note, I saw this excellent post about a 12-week marriage seminar—for free!